Okokokok…. I know this post doesn’t involve true “BDSM,” but just deal with the catchy title.

This post has been a long time coming… bad puns.

For real, Connor suggested to me a year ago that I create an ENTIRE blog dedicated to finding new creative ways to have sex and call the blog “BDSM on a Budget.” This obviously did not happen and I was like… no.

But here we are… a different blog with a post dedicated to the same idea.

It was also a long time in the making. This had to be rewritten numerous times because we did not want to overshare an overload of information and dump EVERYYTHINNGG into a single post. There is definitely going to have to be a part two at some point down the road.

Alright, we’re not going to get into too much detail here. I’m just going to link some of our favorite products and some other weird ways we have “made-do” to “do-the-do.” lmao that was awful.

First thing’s first: CONSENT. ALWAYS. If you haven’t read “Our Story” post, I go into brief detail about my last relationship where my ex tried to force me into something I did not want to do. I am so thankful that I got out of the situation unharmed, but I just want to emphasize the importance of consent. Always make sure to discuss sexual history and preferences prior to engaging in any sexual activity. This is so important, really. Especially when beginning to implement new ideas in the bedroom. And ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS use protection!

Ok… I’m not calling sex toys BDSM. Nor am I saying that vanilla-sex isn’t yummy as is. This post is more for couples who are looking to get into using sex toys // & or spicing things up in the bedroom, but don’t want to spend an arm and a leg to do so – because they are *sigh* so expensive.

At least from what I’ve seen, sex toys are at least $100. And you want quality right, like some nice and soft waterproof silicone. I’ve even seen sex toys made out of healing crystals like rose quartz.. but they cost SO much. I have an ex who bought cheap plastic junk that was…. ew. awful. Like, it shouldn’t be this expensive. & $100 may not seem like a lot to some people, but for two millenials swimming in college debt, it’s a lot.

So let’s get into it by starting small. Condoms are so important for everyone. They help protect against unwanted pregnancies and STD’s (or is it STI’s now?) Everyone needs a good condom. I’m pretty sure I am allergic to latex, but I don’t want to find out the hard way, you know what I mean? Some rubber gloves have made my hands itch in the past as well as some stockings that have had rubber elastic waistlines. My mom is allergic to it, so I just put the puzzle pieces together. We love Skyn condoms for a latex-free one. I’m not down for lamb-skin condoms because just.. ew. I wouldn’t be able to get the thought of a lamb being skinned alive out of my mind and we just don’t want that in the bedroom, am I right? Probably not how the condoms are made, but you know what I mean.

Okay, so almost everyone has spotify and even if you don’t, Apple podcasts offers these, and I believe you can just find the episodes on their websites as well. Some really good sexy tips and tricks can be found on Sex With Emily and The Skinny Confidential podcasts. Surprise, surprise, TSC interviewed Emily and those are primarily the episodes I am referring to, however, Sex With Emily offers so many good resources and general advice for sex and exploring it on her podcast as well. Love it.

Now let’s get into some products. Our first favorite is a coconut-oil based lube by Woo More Play. Again, the creators of The Skinny Confidential are just masterminds and helped create this all natural lube that is a total game changer. It’s made with coconut oil, beeswax, stevia, and some vanilla. The beeswax gives a sort of grip that balances out with the oil. I haven’t tasted it yet, but it is edible as well. AND AND AND it’s not just for sex, guys. This lube is also good for a general moisturizer for your skin and hair. I maybe wouldn’t put it in my hair, but I don’t like oils in my hair at all to begin with. We will also use the woo as a massage oil. It comes in a cute box with some very fun stickers as well. It’s not very expensive and there are almost always bundle packages. Done, deal, good. You need it. We love it. Get woo.

If you are allergic to bee products like one of my best girlfriends, or if you are vegan, another favorite is Sliquid lube. Preferably the Sea one. This product gives you your bang for a buck. It’s not very expensive and works really well.

The next product are Luna Beads by Lelo. You may have seen something similar in the “Fifty Shades Darker” film. I like these ones because.. they’re pink. Duh. Kegals are important. I don’t know too much about them, I just know that they are helpful for having more intense orgasms. The Luna Beads help do just that. These particular ones are so cute and come in different colors. There’s even a chic black pair on the site. They come with two different weights, so when the pink ones get too easy, you can go with a heavier blue weights and turn things up a notch. They cost only about $60 and are a fun and easy way to enhance your sexual wellness.

This next product is a new one we are still experimenting with. The Moxie by WeVibe. This is a wearable vibrator that has a little magnetic button so you can wear it in your underwear and have some fun anywhere. It’s bluetooth as well and connects to your phone and your partner’s phone and you can switch with who is “in charge” of controlling the vibrations. It also comes with a little remote control, but you can also just use the app. It has ten different vibration modes and you can even customize your own. We were interested in this product primarily because it can work long distance just by connecting through the app. Buuuut not sure if that’ll work. We had a ton of issues connecting it to Connor’s phone in general when we were together, like, it just wouldn’t connect and kept saying it needed a PIN and we’re like, WTF??!!!!!

We finally got it to work. The battery life is so-so. We tested it out by going to dinner and he was giving me little zaps from his phone. It was actually funny and we laughed the entire time.

We are still trying to get it to work long distance. The app is very buggy and slow. Last time we tried, the thing wasn’t even connecting to either phone. Boo 🙁

We got it for just $100 with a black Friday code, but even without the code it’s not too expensive. The app lags a lot and obviously does not connect easily to phones and the battery isn’t very good…. buuuuut it’s still cheaper than a lot of toys and it’s still fun to have and play with when it does work.

If you get it, I highly suggest not wearing a thong panty with it because when you walk the magnetic strip sometimes shifts and falls right out – unless you’re in pants, but I was in a dress. Luckily, this happened while I was testing it in the apartment and not in public…. lolz.

Side note that whoever said hiphugging “granny” panties are not sexy – not true. I love a good hiphugger. They make my bum feel like it’s getting a hug all day. Who wouldn’t love that? Bring back the hip hugger.

Let’s take a break from specific products and discuss some items you may have already around the house. If you’re looking to spice it up in the bedroom, it’s easy to do without spending very much.

Cold play. You ready?

A very easy way to try something new is to play with ice cubes. It’s a little cold, but that’s the fun of it. Get creative. Blindfolds are fun for this, too. (Quick money saving blindfold tip – use a tie or a t-shirt)

I think I paid like, 50 cents for this book. It’s cute, it’s cheeky, it’s aestheticly pleasing to look at. If you’re really into astrology, this book may make a little more sense and be more appealing or funny – but if you’re like me, you’re going to flip to your sign, your partner’s sign, and then all of your ex’s and then put the book away – am I right?

Connor and I are conveniently both Aquaious – and there were a few odd things the book suggested that we were just like… no, to. But it’s still fun to read and very funny. I know very little about astrology so I’m just going to leave that here.

Okok next.. this is where the true “BDSM Budget” idea came to be. A friend of mine told me her and her boyfriend got a “sex swing” that was actually patio furniture. Real sex swings are EXPENSIVE. And when we were living in a 100+ year old building and tiny tiny apartment.. not an option.

Patio furniture was also not an option, like where are we going to hide that in our tiny apt?? Not that we needed to hide it, but we needed to store it and just didn’t have the space.

We found a simple solution: a single person hammock.

If you’re an avid outdoors person, having a single person hammock isn’t a bad investment anyway. We just so happened to already have one in the closet somewhere. I don’t know where it was from, but here’s a cheap one.

Now you have to get really creative about where to hang the thing. You could even just do one of those hammock stand things where you don’t need trees. Our apartment at the time had two pillars that divided up the living room from the kitchen which just so happened to be sturdy enough to support the hammock.

Okay so that’s it for now. We didn’t want to dump alll of our tips & tricks into a single post. Gotta keep you guys interested, you know? Some other quick ideas just for some emotional foreplay: have intimate and open conversations about sex. Discuss what you like and don’t like. Discuss what you want to try. Intimate conversations will enhance the relationship both in & out of the bedroom. A tip I learned from Sex with Emily is to have this discussion outside of the bedroom. Do it over dinner or coffee. Make it a general conversation. This helps make it easier to communicate.

Another hot tip: take baths together, preferably candlelit, maybe a few Witty Wicks candles. My favorite is the holiday cinnamon scent “Naughty.” How fitting for this post. Or even showers. We shower together whenever we are together because we don’t want to be away from one another – long distance relationship tip.

Stay safe and sexy, babes.

This blog is not yet affiliated with any brands. This post was not a paid advertisement, nor sponsorship. All content in this post is strictly from our own personal opinions on products that we use and like.

Opinions are all our own.

Disclaimer: We are not experts. We are simply listing cost-friendly ways to enhance a consensual sex life. We are in no way suggesting anyone try anything they are not comfortable with and we advise everyone to do research or consult an expert prior to trying anything new.

SHARE THIS STORY
COMMENTS
EXPAND

[…] isn’t for you.. but maybe you’re feeling a little sexy this v-day, so perhaps our BDSM on a Budget post is more of your cup of […]

ADD A COMMENT

follow me on instagram @flothemes follow me on instagram @flothemes follow me on instagram @flothemes follow me on instagram @flothemes follow me on instagram @flothemes follow me on instagram @flothemes

Home B

Courses

Thank You

Resources

Services

About B

Landing B

Insta Links

Donec sed odio dui. Integer posuere erat a ante venenatis dapibus posuere velit aliquet.

Youtube

Pinterest

Twitter

NESSA

Insta

Vimeo

Medium

/By Alice Marie ROose

GET IN TOUCH

Tiktok

TikTok

Facebook